"I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin, but by the content of their character." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
To Martin Luther King, Jr. that was a dream at some point in time. To the rest of us however, the judgment of character is an everyday expectation in leadership. The importance of character in leadership cannot be overemphasized; as a matter of fact, there is no leadership without character.
Character forms the crux of the matter and is the real foundation of all worthwhile successes. The leader is nothing without the cardinal description of his personality which ultimately is his character.
Every action a leader takes is a pointer to his or her character, whether he is aware of this or not. We must understand that while knowledge may give power, it is character that gives respect and loyalty.
The definition of a man’s character is not hinged on periodic behaviours and goodwill but on the daily patterns of action, words and the retinue of nuances and attributes vague or obvious that are peculiar to him or her. In the words of Theodore Roosevelt, “Character, in the long run is the decisive factor in the life of an individual and of nations alike." One of the biggest challenges nations face today; especially African nations, is the lack of character.
The obvious inconsistency and disharmony between the things we say and do show the obvious paucity of character in the society. There was a time when character mattered; today we focus on wealth irrespective of how it is gotten. And this is not restricted to the elites and politicians alone; the same applies to teachers, civil and public servants, religious leaders etc. The average man on the street is as bereft of character as the man sitting in the office of the governor, minister, chairman, manager, director etc. Do not forget, that they all come from the same society anyway.
It was Booker T. Washington who once said; "Character is power”. Think about that for a moment. We do not often think about this but the standing, confidence, authority and control a good character gives is amazing if you know how to wield it and positively too. “Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character, but if you must be without one, be without strategy” - Norman Shwarzkorpf.
I hope you see where the emphasis lies. That is a beautiful summary of our entire discourse I believe.
In my opinion, there are several components or traits that illustrate the character of a leader. For now, I will briefly examine six of them:
1. TRUSTWORTHINESS
The leader must not be the one to also judge people based on what he has heard without confirmation or without finding out the reason at the very least. Trust is earned! You do not demand for it or command it into existence; it is a result of consistent show of stable good attitude and confidentiality.
Trust is very difficult to build but easy to lose, that is why leaders must be very careful how they treat people. Once a leader’s character is proven untrustworthy, his or her influence and ability to lead is severely diminished.
2. RELIABILITY
Leaders cannot afford to be reliable only when it is convenient. The desire for greatness and excellence should drive us towards being reliable at all times, as leaders. Let it be said of you that ‘whatever is committed into your hands, you will keep’ until it is requested.
My former boss told a story of about a colleague of his who had retired at the time. He said no matter the amount of money you give to the man even in marked notes, you will receive those same notes anytime you request for your money. The man eventually became a mini bank for his colleagues, since it was in the early 90’s when banks were not this common in Warri. We all want that kind of person right? I hope we are that person too.
Being honest with ones-self, others and speaking truth no matter whose ox is gored is sacrosanct to leadership. You do not necessarily have to be *‘brutal’* with being truthful or honest but a leader should be comfortable with himself and herself and should be ready to stand for what he or she believes.
Being honest and truthful requires courage, because this virtue is a two-edged sword. An honest man very easily makes enemies even though they admire his truth, they often hate his courage.
According to the 14th Dalai Lama “the real source of inner joy is to remain truthful and honest." This still holds and especially for leaders, whenever you are dishonest with yourself, you are disconnected from reality and you will make poor decisions with potentially far reaching effects.
Those in the positions of authority must understand that telling the truth even when it is uncomfortable is better than lying because it feels good or serves a momentary gain. When you face a choice between being polite and honest, err on the side of the truth. It is better to be disliked but respected than to be liked but disrespected. In the long run, the people we trust the most are those who have the courage to be sincere (Adam Grant).
The sacrifices made by men of great resolve while their peers slept can only be done by disciplined hands. To do what is right, even if you do not feel like it; to practice self-control is to balance your own desires with the need of others and the courage also to face the fears, risks and dangers of standing up for what is right should be characteristics of every great leader.
According to Leonardo da Vinci “You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself…the height of a man’s success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment. And this law is the expression of eternal justice. He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others”.
Leaders should be men and women of integrity. People whose words and actions matter to them and are synchronized. The things they say do not differ from what they do; as a matter of fact they do not treat their claims with levity.
I am not saying leaders should be perfect, because none of us is perfect. And I am not sure many of us will trust anyone claiming to be ‘perfect’ anyway. However, a man who seeks to lead others should stand head over shoulders in the things that matters the most.
Your sense of ethics and morality should not be questionable. How do you provide direction for others when your moral compass has no bearing?
Integrity entails having a clear sense of values that guide your behavior every day. I understand that often times we find ourselves at crossroads in life and we are forced to choose a path. Choose the right path; the one paved with principles that leads to character. A man of integrity practices to align his actions, feelings and thoughts with his values. Try practicing this; it will not bite you I promise.
From the foregoing you should have deduced by now that ‘fake’ is not in the character of good leaders. They sincerely care about those who look up to them. They may not be able to take care of everybody’s problem but they are sincere in their sympathy and empathy.
Genuine concern and care are important for leadership at all levels. On a general note, people do not care how much you know until they know how much you care. Did you get that? Think about it for a moment.
This is one of the reasons why emotionally disconnected geniuses never make good leaders.
People with high emotional and social quotients even if they have low intelligence quotient, will always make better leaders than those high on intelligence but low on the former two. The simple reason is because good leaders know how to connect with people and can relate to their situations, good or bad.
Do
you know that gifted people have unique psychological problems? As someone who is enthusiastic about clinical
psychologist, I work with many gifted people, many of whom do not believe they
are gifted, but they still have the psychological issues that are common to people
in this population.
Having
studied about the psychological issues that gifted people are more likely to
have, I think there is a need to educate people around this topic, just in case
you fall into this group or know other who are and are struggling with these
problems. Studies have shown that these issues are directly related to the
personality structures that gifted people tend to have that are necessarily a
function of their Intelligence Quotient (IQ). A good reference material on this subject
matter is a study by Francis Heylighen titled as the same as this article.
Gifted
people often have the tendency to question authority.
They
ask embarrassing questions because they want to know the details they should
not ask about.
And
they are non-conforming. This can lead to sense of alienation. Feeling out of
step with others.
This
coupled with the tendency to have unusual ideas and thinking about things from
multiple and different angles that people do not typically go into can lead to
social isolation.
But,
gifted people also tend to be highly sensitive, empathic and highly
compassionate.
They
can also have really strong moral convictions and be a seeker of an ultimate
truth.
Now
imagine having that set of characteristic and not actually realizing that everyone
does not share the same attributes as you do. And when you do, you feel lost.
In every workplace, there's often a person who is commonly referred to as a "snitch." Sometimes, there may even be two or three individuals who seem to have a knack for gathering information and reporting on the activities of their coworkers. You know those colleagues of yours that are good at taking sides with the “oga” even when the boss is wrong, and the wheels are about to fall off? They are also good at writing minority reports to undermine the rest of the team. Sometimes we call them “rat”, or “sabo” (short for saboteur) in local slang. Aha! They are the ones I am referring to.
BUT WHAT DEFINES A "SNITCH"?
These individuals
typically portray themselves as outgoing and friendly, making it easy for them
to strike up conversations and probe into the personal lives of others. They
often ask a multitude of questions, delving into topics like future plans and
family matters. However, beneath their friendly façade lies a hidden
agenda—they aim to extract sensitive information from their colleagues.
What sets a
"snitch" apart is their ability to uncover confidential details and
then betray the trust of their coworkers by reporting this information to
management or other parties. To safeguard oneself from potential harm, it's
crucial to exercise caution when sharing personal information with individuals
who exhibit "snitch" behavior or with anyone at all for that matter.
Protecting one's privacy can prevent the exploitation of sensitive information.
You also need to
understand that a “snitch” does not care about the harm he or she is causing to
their subject of target. The multiplier effect of their actions to the emotion,
integrity, or career etc. of their target means very little or nothing to them,
and they can go any length to achieve their five minutes orgasmic satisfaction
from causing pain. The depth of scheming employed is pretty much in the borderline
between diabolism and pathology.
The presence of a
"snitch" in the workplace can have detrimental effects, leading to an
atmosphere of distrust and suspicion among colleagues. Therefore, it's
imperative for individual, groups or leaders (in any capacity) to foster an
environment where confidentiality and trust are valued, discouraging the
prevalence of such behavior. To those who enjoy hearing the dirty secrets of
others, remember that “he who tells you about others will one day tell others
about you too”.
By recognizing the
characteristics and actions associated with a "snitch," individuals
can navigate workplace dynamics more effectively, maintaining a sense of trust
and confidentiality in their professional interactions.
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